Relationships are hard and life changes. It is time to feel better.

• Are you feeling unfulfilled in your relationship?

• Do you keep having repetitive arguments or lack communication? 

• Do you have feelings of emptiness or disconnection?

• Do you feel more like roommates than lovers?

• Are there trust issues or emotional affairs?

• Does it feel like you always come last on your partner’s list of priorities?

For most people, the beginning of a relationship is the easiest. You seem to be on the same page about most issues. Getting along is so easy. Some couples describe this as a sense of ‘oneness’ – a merging of two people into a couple.  As time goes on, each partner realizes it’s not as easy, and the relationship isn’t as fulfilling. It is how they each look at their differences and respond to them that can predict a happy relationship or continuing struggles.

Most couples can solve or reduce their problems with new skills and new tools. The good news is that these skills and tools can be taught. The great news is that with desire and practice, many relationships get better and happier. This is where couples counseling comes in. The licensed counselors at NECRD are experts at listening to each partner’s concerns and quickly identifying problems. Next, we help each partner to nurture the growth and "differentiation" of each partner, and to put focus on strengthening each partner’s capacity to tolerate and negotiate differences. Truly learning to tolerate your differences is the key to long-lived satisfying relationships where each partner has a strong self. Having a strong self is in fact the precondition for deep intimacy and the "we" that you may so desperately want or wish you had back. We can’t promise to save every relationship, but we want to help make it easier and better for you.